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I don’t /care/ whether you realized you’d been blocked or not — honestly, if I had been worried about your feelings I wouldn’t have blocked you anyway. The fact of the matter is that you do /not/ deserve to know, unless I /decide/ you should. Your expectancy of people is honestly the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard on this bloody site. I don’t owe you a thing, and neither does anyone else that’s blocked you.

How then do I owe you anything? You had only to keep ignoring me, and yet somehow you chose to come and task me with my faults — chose to come answer my challenge. I had the one thing to say, where I was unhappy and hurt, and that two days ago, and now, NOW you come, you and your friends, to task me with it, as though I’d been going round to others complaining of you?

How do you know they blocked you?

When you follow someone, and notice one day they no longer seem to appear on your dashboard — you would go check their tumblr directly, right? Maybe they’re taking a break and you missed the announcement, maybe something happened while you were asleep.

And then you see that no, they made a post just a minute ago, and it’s not showing up on your dash — so you check the +/- sign, and no, you’re still following, so then you check your options, maybe you hit something on accident —

No. It’s them. They’ve blocked you.

I do notice these things. When I follow someone, it’s a conscious choice, I don’t fill up my dash with people I’m not interested in, and when they stop appearing, I wonder. I worry. I check.

I had always, always rather, if someone wants nothing to do with me, to be told it, than wonder ‘what have I done?’

Alright. So I’m just going to make my way over here and tell you that I blocked you because I do not like your character. I didn’t like how you thought Gwaine was your character’s friend, when she never actually /introduced/ herself to him. The only thread we had was one, and then you decided to start sending suggestive asks that Gwaine nor I wanted any part of. I reserve the right to ignore, and I do not have to feel sorry about that.

Same to you as to anyone else: I deserve to know. I deserve to be told ‘this is a problem for me, and here is why’. You write that to me as though I was supposed to somehow divine magically the cause of the problem, and amend it. Or perhaps to just not notice when someone I’d been watching with interest no longer appears on my dash.

Seriously, it’s like you people think it’s not possible to tell when you’ve been blocked!

If I feel the need to block someone, I will. I come here to enjoy myself as much as you do and if I feel like someone is going to ruin that for me, I will take action. Just like any other rational person would. That’s on your back if you’ve got offended. Utterly shun you? No. No one did that. You make it seem as though we banded together and all decided to take action against you, which none of us did.

It’s hard not to feel like people banded together when four people block me all at once — including someone with whom I was playing at the time.

I really appreciate how well you know me, that you can be so certain I wasn’t triggered by your actions. It really makes me feel secure in myself, responsible, mature and grown up — seriously, you of all people are going to sit there and tell me I wasn’t triggered? I don’t splash that stuff all over tumblr the way some people do, looking for sympathy, but that doesn’t make my reaction any less real.

As for polite, I gave that over when I was about your age, because I realised that ‘polite’ was a pretty word for ‘don’t feel’, and fuck that shit. I’m not about to sit around and pretend that it didn’t happen, I’m not about to sit around and pretend it didn’t hurt.

Behaviour like that is the reason shitshows like this happen in the first place — everyone trying to pretend that they don’t get angry, don’t get hurt, don’t care about what is said or done or thought. Screw that. ‘Can’t we all just get along’ is the biggest crock of shit I’ve ever heard, and that is what you want me to play at.

I will also point out that if I didn’t call you out in public, there was no way at all for me to speak to you, because you. Blocked. Me.

In short: you had the problem with me first, and refused to be mature enough to come to me in private and say, “I don’t agree with you.” Instead, as far as I can tell, you complained in your high school clique and mutually silently agreed that I was no longer to exist, without so much as giving me a chance to explain anything, have a rational discussion, or even apologise, should I have wanted to.

And now I don’t trust you at all, and I’m going to make it so this conversation can’t be erased or misrepresented with no source available.

Anon, if you begrudge me the ability to work out my own frustrations via roleplay, you can very kindly betake yourself elsewhere. Nobody is making you hang around here.

Oh, by the way: to the anon who so politely asked me to delete my blog.

You can’t get to me that way. I don’t know how many times I’ve said this, but I’ll say it again.

If you want to hurt me, you are going to have to do it with a face on. I cannot be hurt by someone who doesn’t even have the courage to say it to my face. The only people who can hurt me are the people I actually give a damn about, and obviously I can’t give a damn about someone I don’t even know who they are.

If I follow you, and you are a roleplaying blog, I want to roleplay with you.

If you follow me, and you are a roleplaying blog, that is tacit permission for me to roleplay with you, play your askgames, and insinuate my muse into your muse’s life.

If you aren’t okay with that, don’t follow me.

I’ll be back to full operation tonight.