{"id":1341,"date":"2014-12-23T03:21:18","date_gmt":"2014-12-23T03:21:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/2014\/12\/23\/an-open-letter-to-non-vaxxers-tonight-while\/"},"modified":"2014-12-23T03:21:18","modified_gmt":"2014-12-23T03:21:18","slug":"an-open-letter-to-non-vaxxers-tonight-while","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/2014\/12\/23\/an-open-letter-to-non-vaxxers-tonight-while\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"
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An Open Letter to Non-Vaxxers:<\/p>\n

Tonight, while enjoying a nice dinner, I got a call from the director of my son\u2019s preschool. She was calling to tell me that they had made the decision to put my son in a different class because two children in the class he was supposed to be in have \u201copted out\u201d of their vaccines. This may not sound like a big thing. He is still in the Tuesday-Thursday class, and since he doesn\u2019t start school until next Tuesday, it\u2019s not like he has to get readjusted to a whole new class. No harm, no foul. Actually, this is a big deal\u2014a very big deal. You see, my son is immunocompromised. He has cancer. He was fully vaccinated and supporting the whole \u201cherd immunity\u201d thing before his cancer diagnosis, but that darn chemo wiped out his immunity to the communicable diseases against which he had already been vaccinated.<\/p>\n

So, parents who choose to not vaccinate because you feel it\u2019s the \u201cright choice for your family\u201d, I would like to thank you. Thank you for adding yet another worry to my plate and my husband\u2019s plate. You see, we already worry about a lot\u2014it\u2019s an unfortunate part of your child having cancer\u2014you worry every night. On top of worrying about things like relapse, organ toxicity brought on by chemo, debilitating late effects of chemo, secondary cancers brought on by chemo, the mental effects of having more than three years of painful treatment, we now get to worry about, of all things, measles. And mumps. And whooping cough. And chicken pox.<\/p>\n

Let me explain something about having a child with cancer to you: everything is robbed from your child in some form or another. Friends, Halloween, Christmas, play dates, school. It\u2019s all taken away at some point or another and in some form or another because we have to protect our children from germs, because if they catch the wrong germs during the worst part of treatment, they can die. My son was isolated from everyone except immediate family for an entire year. For parents whose children are going through chemo, the decision to send them to school is a momentous one. It requires a leap of faith and trust in the surrounding community, in your child\u2019s teachers and administrators, and in the families sending their children to school. It requires herd immunity. Now, even though my son is now in a different class than your unvaccinated children, I get to worry about him using the communal bathroom, the playground, and even walking around the halls with them. If there is an outbreak of measles in, say, Austin this winter, I won\u2019t know if you have relatives in Austin and went to go see those relatives for Uncle Bobby\u2019s birthday. I won\u2019t know if your child was exposed to measles at the Austin Chuck-E-Cheese and then showed up at school on Tuesday. Oh, I\u2019m sure you\u2019ll do your due diligence and call the school to inform everyone that your child has come down with a case of the measles once it appears, but, the damage is done\u2014the exposure to my immunocompromised child has already happened. It\u2019s too late. Your choice just earned him a ticket to the hospital. Your choice just earned him a lot of shots and more toxic drugs in the desperate effort to stave off whatever disease your unvaccinated child passed to him. If, God forbid, he does come down with that disease, your choice just earned him a trip to the Pediatric ICU for a while\u2014days, maybe weeks. Your choice may cost us our son. Who knows\u2014it depends on how his already stressed body handles everything.<\/p>\n

People like to say that in choosing to not vaccinate, they are making the \u201cbest choice for their family\u201d, and that, after all, their children are the ones at risk, not other people\u2019s children. No, sorry, you\u2019re wrong. Choosing to home school is a choice that is made in the best interest of a family\u2014it impacts nobody but your family. Choosing to eat all organic and locally grown food is a choice that impacts nobody but your family. For that matter, choosing to eat nothing but fast food and frozen meals is a choice that impacts nobody but your family. Choosing to not vaccinate impacts my family and my immunocompromised son. It impacts the teacher who is pregnant and teaching your non-vaccinated child. It impacts the man going through chemo who happened to be behind you in the grocery store when your unvaccinated child sneezed. It impacts the mom next to you at the pick up line at school who is on immunosuppressive drugs for her rheumatoid arthritis and who is bending down to hug her child just as your unvaccinated child coughs. Your \u201cchoice\u201d has repercussions for your community.<\/p>\n

Part of the cost of living in a first world country is that you have to do things that support the community in which you live. You pay taxes to pay for the police that respond to your 911 calls, to pay for the teachers who teach your children, and to pay for roads to be plowed and paved. You obey traffic laws to ensure an orderly flow of traffic. You don\u2019t shout \u201cfire\u201d in a crowded theater because to do so would cause pandemonium and chaos. Sometimes, to live in a place with the privileges we enjoy here in America, you suck it up and do things you don\u2019t want to do because it\u2019s for the communal good. If everyone chose otherwise, we would not be a first world country. We would be a country without laws, roads, and schools. We would be a country overrun with disease. Your responsibility to your community is to vaccinate your child. The number of people who actually, literally, physically can\u2019t have vaccines is extraordinarily small. The number of people who choose to not vaccinate is not\u2014it\u2019s growing. These people cite a vague unease about the number of vaccines a child gets or statistics they learned from Internet memes on autism. They confess conspiracy theories about Big Pharma and how it\u2019s all a ploy to get doctors and pharmacists rich. They share anecdotes of a college friend\u2019s neighbor\u2019s son who got so sick from his vaccine he was hospitalized. They say their child got incredibly sick from the one round of vaccines he or she got at his 2 month visit, and they said they\u2019re not vaccinating anymore. Guess what\u2014if your child is sitting here today, talking, walking, eating, laughing, playing, and learning, he or she wasn\u2019t that ill from the vaccine. He or she got a fever and reacted to the vaccine\u2014it doesn\u2019t mean they had an \u201cadverse\u201d reaction.<\/p>\n

I am horrified, non-vaxxers, that you are so quick to forget the lessons of history. You\u2019re spoiled and selfish because you have never seen the horrors of a society in which vaccines are not available. Perhaps you should talk to my mother about her neighbor growing up\u2014the one who contracted German measles while pregnant with her third child. That third child was born deaf and with brain damage, thanks to his mother catching that communicable\u2014and now preventable\u2014disease while pregnant. Perhaps you should talk to anyone over the age of 60 about what it was like when polio was around\u2014how nobody was allowed to go swimming or use public drinking fountains for fear of catching that dreaded\u2014and now preventable\u2014disease. Perhaps you should talk to the parents of a child with cancer whose daughter spent a month in the Pediatric ICU during treatment because she caught chicken pox\u2014a preventable disease\u2014from an unvaccinated classmate. Perhaps you should take a trip to a third world country and explain to them why they should not be lining up in droves to get their children vaccinated by the Red Cross or other relief organizations. Perhaps, better yet, you should keep your children out of school.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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