{"id":20614,"date":"2013-11-17T23:09:03","date_gmt":"2013-11-17T23:09:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/2013\/11\/17\/1-when-your-friends-ask-you-to-hangout-and-you\/"},"modified":"2013-11-17T23:09:03","modified_gmt":"2013-11-17T23:09:03","slug":"1-when-your-friends-ask-you-to-hangout-and-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/2013\/11\/17\/1-when-your-friends-ask-you-to-hangout-and-you\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"
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1. When your friends ask you to hangout, and you don\u2019t feel like it, don\u2019t go. Don\u2019t ever do things halfway or do something that makes you uncomfortable. With everything, give all of yourself, even the pieces you never knew existed. <\/p>\n

2. It is okay to not know. Everyone always despises the phrase, \u201cI don\u2019t know\u201d but no one tells you that it is okay to not know. The becoming is more important than the being, anyways.<\/p>\n

3. If someone ever makes you feel less, in any way, you have every right to walk away. You have every right to cut out toxic people in your life. To close the door on people who make you feel bad about who you are or what you stand for. Friends don\u2019t tear down, they build up. <\/p>\n

4. Loss is always going to happen. Just like paint will always chip and rain will always fall, loss will always be part of life. No matter how much I don\u2019t like it, or avoid it, it is going to walk my way at several times in my life. Learn to embrace it and learn to get closure. <\/p>\n

5. Give yourself a chance. Stop saying, \u201cI don\u2019t think I can\u201d or \u201cBut what if I am not able to?\u201d and give yourself a chance. This may be cliche, but try to believe in yourself. When you get older, your knees won\u2019t work the same and you won\u2019t have the best memory, and you are going to wish you\u2019d given yourself a chance years sooner.<\/p>\n

6. Fall in love. Don\u2019t be guarded before you fall in love. You could fall in love three times and still not find the right one, but none of it is going to make \u201cthe one\u201d matter less. Don\u2019t fall into that idea that your first love has to be your best love. Fall in love as many times as it naturally happens. <\/p>\n

7. Firsts are going to be messy. First loves, first kisses, first dates, first failed tests, first college class, first time you drive a car, first time you ride a plane – first times were made to be imperfect. Just because it\u2019s messy and all over the place, doesn\u2019t mean it can\u2019t be good or worthwhile.<\/p>\n

8. You want another scoop of ice-cream? Go get it. Get three more scoops of ice-cream if that is what you want. \u201cFat\u201d is not the opposite of beautiful and it is not the opposite of happy. Don\u2019t let anyone tell you that your body type isn\u2019t beautiful. Beauty is a social construct, create your own, become your own.<\/p>\n

9. Let yourself be alone. Loneliness is not a bad thing. It is healthy and normal. Everyone needs to spend a good portion of their life alone. We learn who we are when we are alone; life is less crowded and more clear when we are alone. <\/p>\n

10. If you aren\u2019t happy where you are, change it. Quit your job, move, become a vegetarian, get a new hobby, pick up an old hobby, whatever you do – make sure it benefits you. Life is too short to not be alive, to not be passionate, and overflowing. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Amanda Helm – Ten things I learned before I turned twenty<\/a> (via lacohan<\/a>)<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

1. When your friends ask you to hangout, and you don\u2019t feel like it, don\u2019t go. Don\u2019t ever do things halfway or do something that makes you uncomfortable. With everything, give all of yourself, even the pieces you never knew existed. 2. It is okay to not know. Everyone always despises the phrase, \u201cI don\u2019t … Continue reading <\/span> →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"quote","meta":{"ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20614"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20614"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20614\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20614"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20614"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20614"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}