{"id":23234,"date":"2013-10-20T05:35:34","date_gmt":"2013-10-20T05:35:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/2013\/10\/20\/thelonesomegirl-please-dontbreakmedown\/"},"modified":"2015-02-21T01:43:29","modified_gmt":"2015-02-21T01:43:29","slug":"thelonesomegirl-please-dontbreakmedown","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/2013\/10\/20\/thelonesomegirl-please-dontbreakmedown\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-23234 gallery-columns-3 gallery-size-thumbnail'><figure class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<div class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/2013\/10\/20\/thelonesomegirl-please-dontbreakmedown\/attachment\/23235\/'><img width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/files\/2013\/10\/tumblr_mj3wp1OEXu1rntovao1_1280-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div><\/figure>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/thelonesomegirl.tumblr.com\/post\/64544013522\/please-dontbreakmedown-kalliente-cheklov\">thelonesomegirl<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/please-dontbreakmedown.tumblr.com\/post\/63871694453\">please-dontbreakmedown<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/kalliente.tumblr.com\/post\/46130383500\">kalliente<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/cheklov.tumblr.com\/post\/46125513642\/theheroofstupidity-islamicbutterflies-i\">cheklov<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/theheroofstupidity.tumblr.com\/post\/44579352180\/islamicbutterflies-i-dont-get-help-because-i\">theheroofstupidity<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/islamicbutterflies.tumblr.com\/post\/44492613821\/i-dont-get-help-because-i-am-the-helper-im\">islamicbutterflies<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><em>I don\u2019t get help because I am the helper.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m sure I\u2019m not the only person who can relate to this. You\u2019re the friend who helps everyone, gives them advice when they need it, tells them they\u2019re perfect when they feel ugly, and help them with their relationships even though you\u2019ve never been in one yourself. But then the time comes around for you to be sad, for you to need help, and they\u2019re not there to give it. Sure, sometimes you may not tell people you need help when you need it, but when you do tell everyone just ignores the fact and continues on with their lives like you don\u2019t matter. And then the next day they come to you for more help.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve gotten to the point where I don\u2019t even care if I get their help or not. I wouldn\u2019t even know what to do if they did offer help, I\u2019ve never been on the other side of the relationship and I would feel out of place if I was. I\u2019ve become better at dealing with my feelings and problems myself rather than telling anyone or even anything.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>More on this.<\/p>\n<p>At some point, you don\u2019t even want help anymore, even if you need it, because you\u2019re so far gone into your role that you can\u2019t see yourself getting help. You get to a point where you refuse other people\u2019s help because you don\u2019t want to burden them, because you\u2019re the person that\u2019s supposed to be burdened by others. At some point, you become afraid of getting help.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>This is something I struggled with for a long time, and to an extent, still do.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Welcome to my life.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>i started crying while reading this.\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>It hurts the most when you\u00a0realize. They aren\u2019t willing to actually offer you any help at all. Only pile you on which more problems for you to solve. Slowly\u00a0realizing maybe your not their friend at all..But a simple problem solver.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>The hardest thing I ever learned: I \/shouldn&#8217;t\/ save everyone. No matter how much I want to.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>thelonesomegirl: please-dontbreakmedown: kalliente: cheklov: theheroofstupidity: islamicbutterflies: I don\u2019t get help because I am the helper. I\u2019m sure I\u2019m not the only person who can relate to this. You\u2019re the friend who helps everyone, gives them advice when they need it, tells them they\u2019re perfect when they feel ugly, and help them with their relationships even &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/2013\/10\/20\/thelonesomegirl-please-dontbreakmedown\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\"><\/span> <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"gallery","meta":{"ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[33,2799],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23234"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=23234"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23234\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":23236,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23234\/revisions\/23236"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=23234"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=23234"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=23234"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}