{"id":5037,"date":"2014-09-04T17:58:39","date_gmt":"2014-09-04T17:58:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/2014\/09\/04\/its-late-and-no-ones-online-but-i-have-to-talk-to\/"},"modified":"2014-09-04T17:58:39","modified_gmt":"2014-09-04T17:58:39","slug":"its-late-and-no-ones-online-but-i-have-to-talk-to","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/2014\/09\/04\/its-late-and-no-ones-online-but-i-have-to-talk-to\/","title":{"rendered":"its late and no ones online but i HAVE to talk to someone cuz im about to breakdown and you always seem so wise.i looked up these girls i used to be bf with but then they turned into bitches. they look gorgeous and are out having adventures and im sitting at home really lonely and getting fat. i dont know what to do i feel like im missing out and i dont know how to change it. i can barely motivate myself to wake up everyday let alone exercise or get my hair done. do you have any advice, please?"},"content":{"rendered":"

letyoursoul<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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I really understand how you feel dear. \u00a0But please know that this is a trick of social media and not actually an indication that your life is super lame and everyone else is really interesting. \u00a0It\u2019s really harmful to look people up online and compare yourself and your life to theirs, because you\u2019re only getting the snapshots that they WANT everyone to see. \u00a0You can make yourself look like anybody online, and leave out all the slow, boring days, or the times you\u2019re actually really miserable. \u00a0So just because someone\u2019s pictures are all of them in a big group smiling doesn\u2019t mean that person is always surrounded by friends having fun. \u00a0That\u2019s just the image they\u2019re putting out there.<\/p>\n

Now, the next step is to start taking little steps every day towards the \u201clifestyle\u201d that you want. \u00a0If that means all you do is spend five minutes THINKING about what you might want to do with yourself in the future, thats fine! \u00a0Take your time. \u00a0But just feel like you\u2019re moving forward. \u00a0Develop a plan and take it one tiny step at a time. \u00a0Forgive yourself for the days where you stay home watching Netflix eating candy. \u00a0Those days are important too; that\u2019s when you refuel and let yourself just be totally entertained and find out what actually holds your attention.<\/p>\n

Also, here\u2019s some really generic advice that is actually extremely true and helpful: if you don\u2019t like your job, fuckin quit it. \u00a0If you hate your major, change it. \u00a0If your friends suck, stop talking to them. \u00a0If your family is abusive, at least start making plans to move out. \u00a0If your partner makes you feel like shit, break up with them. \u00a0Too many people stay in one spot and let themselves be miserable just because they\u2019re afraid of change. \u00a0Change is fantastic, and that\u2019s how you actually have adventures and an interesting life!<\/p>\n

Hope this helps a bit, sorry for the giant wall of text, I LIKE GIVING ADVICE WOOPS.<\/p>\n

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letyoursoul: I really understand how you feel dear. \u00a0But please know that this is a trick of social media and not actually an indication that your life is super lame and everyone else is really interesting. \u00a0It\u2019s really harmful to look people up online and compare yourself and your life to theirs, because you\u2019re only … Continue reading its late and no ones online but i HAVE to talk to someone cuz im about to breakdown and you always seem so wise.i looked up these girls i used to be bf with but then they turned into bitches. they look gorgeous and are out having adventures and im sitting at home really lonely and getting fat. i dont know what to do i feel like im missing out and i dont know how to change it. i can barely motivate myself to wake up everyday let alone exercise or get my hair done. do you have any advice, please?<\/span> →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[537,536],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5037"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5037"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5037\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5037"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5037"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.firechildren.net\/lightfire\/iamthefirechild\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5037"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}