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its late and no ones online but i HAVE to talk to someone cuz im about to breakdown and you always seem so wise.i looked up these girls i used to be bf with but then they turned into bitches. they look gorgeous and are out having adventures and im sitting at home really lonely and getting fat. i dont know what to do i feel like im missing out and i dont know how to change it. i can barely motivate myself to wake up everyday let alone exercise or get my hair done. do you have any advice, please?

letyoursoul:

I really understand how you feel dear.  But please know that this is a trick of social media and not actually an indication that your life is super lame and everyone else is really interesting.  It’s really harmful to look people up online and compare yourself and your life to theirs, because you’re only getting the snapshots that they WANT everyone to see.  You can make yourself look like anybody online, and leave out all the slow, boring days, or the times you’re actually really miserable.  So just because someone’s pictures are all of them in a big group smiling doesn’t mean that person is always surrounded by friends having fun.  That’s just the image they’re putting out there.

Now, the next step is to start taking little steps every day towards the “lifestyle” that you want.  If that means all you do is spend five minutes THINKING about what you might want to do with yourself in the future, thats fine!  Take your time.  But just feel like you’re moving forward.  Develop a plan and take it one tiny step at a time.  Forgive yourself for the days where you stay home watching Netflix eating candy.  Those days are important too; that’s when you refuel and let yourself just be totally entertained and find out what actually holds your attention.

Also, here’s some really generic advice that is actually extremely true and helpful: if you don’t like your job, fuckin quit it.  If you hate your major, change it.  If your friends suck, stop talking to them.  If your family is abusive, at least start making plans to move out.  If your partner makes you feel like shit, break up with them.  Too many people stay in one spot and let themselves be miserable just because they’re afraid of change.  Change is fantastic, and that’s how you actually have adventures and an interesting life!

Hope this helps a bit, sorry for the giant wall of text, I LIKE GIVING ADVICE WOOPS.

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