So far, virtually everyone I’ve sent those messages to has been someone who has followed me, but done nothing beyond that. I personally find that incredibly frustrating and a little bit insulting. Some of them are people who then complain that nobody talks to them, nobody plays with them — but they never seem to make the effort to reach out to anyone.

As far as hate goes, when I think of hate I think of messages calling people ugly, telling them to kill themselves, claiming they are horrible roleplayers or horrible people. I admit the first version of the note, which you got, was about fifty times more awkward and badly phrased than the revised version — but the variety of responses I’ve gotten indicates that your personal aversion to the way I put things is unusual.

It concerns me that your ip address matches that of someone I considered a friend — but the sort of friend where I was doing all the work of reaching out.

Even though you won’t believe me, I’m compelled to point out that I certainly never intended to offend anyone this deeply with my note — but the sort of person who is offended by it is probably not the sort of person I would have wanted to play with anyway. Ultimately, that sort of person would have been offended by me anyway, precipitating exactly the sort of thing I’m trying to avoid here.